"The problem with 'defiance' is that it puts something in the child," said Alan Kazdin, professor of psychology and child psychiatry at Yale University and author of more than 40 books
I am exhausted from the middle of the night "Will she or won't she throw up?" session. She did not, but still, it's probably not the perfect time to ask myself if I'm parenting from a place of joy or a place of fear.
Noël Plummer can't imagine making a conscious decision to inflict physical pain on her 8-year-old daughter as a punishment. She's only slapped her daughter once, without thinking, when her then-5-year-old was having an enormous tantrum.