“Your Kids will Imitate You: Use it as a Force for Good,”
by Alan E. Kazdin & Carlo Rotella, Slate.com (Jan 2009)

We all communicate “Do as I say, not as I do” to our kids in one way or another.

Sometimes, it’s not such a bad thing. We hope our children won’t make the same mistakes we made in life, and we want them to do better than we did, so it makes sense that we want them to do things differently. “Yes, I smoke, but you’re not allowed to” is not simple hypocrisy, especially if you follow up with something like, “I made a bad decision when I started, I realize it’s not good for me, and I’m trying to quit. You’ll never have to face this problem if you never start.” Also, for many behaviors, children ought to wait to until the appropriate age…

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