Research Suggests Which Strategies Really Get Children to Behave; How Timeouts Can Work Better.
When it comes to disciplining her generally well-behaved kids, Heather Henderson has tried all the popular tricks. She’s tried taking toys away. (Her boys, ages 4 and 6, never miss them.) She’s tried calm explanations about why a particular behavior—like hitting your brother—is wrong. (It doesn’t seem to sink in.) And she’s tried timeouts. “The older one will scream and yell and bang on walls. He just loses it,” says the 41-year-old stay-at-home mother in Syracuse, N.Y.
Imagine living in constant fear that you will be attacked ” or even killed ” by your own child. Dr. Phil, along with Dr. Alan Kazdin, professor of psychology and child psychiatry at Yale University and author of The Kazdin Method® for Parenting the Defiant Child, has advice for managing aggressive behavior.