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Pop Songs: Bad for Babies?

September 6, 2011
I can count on one hand the number of children’s songs I know. There are, of course, the ABC’s song, “Itsy Bitsy Spider,” and … uh… does Guns and Roses’ “Sweet Child of Mine” count? Yes, I know I should learn more, but for the time being, my playtime singalongs and nighttime lullabies to my son tend to lean more toward the top 40 than “Twinkle, Twinkle Little Star” (hey, there’s another one!) A little One Republic here, a little Adele there … what’s the harm, right?
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Fighting In Front of Kids

November 11, 2010
Juju Chang on how arguing in front of your kids affects their development.
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Get Off Facebook and Do Something

May 17, 2010
One of the most common concerns for parents is the worry that their children, especially preadolescents and adolescents, are just not motivated to do anything. He doesn't really show much interest in anything or talk to anyone, and texting or Facebooking his life away seems like a pallid substitute. Understandably, parents worry that a child who seems inert now may be on a trajectory to become a full-time slacker in perpetuity.
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Parenting Expert Warns Against Physical Punishment

May 10, 2010
Corporal punishment of children has long been a topic of controversy in the United States. According to some studies, more than half of all U.S. parents condone spanking as a regular form of punishment for small children.
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The difference between bribing your child and rewarding your child

March 10, 2010
Rewarding the desired behavior is just one element of positive reinforcement, which a deep body of reputable research over several decades has established as the most effective way to change behavior.
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No Brakes! The best way to guide your teenager through the high-risk years

February 1, 2010
Research demonstrates that teenagers do not suffer from some special inability to reason. Larry Steinberg and other researchers explain the steep rise in risk-taking behavior that comes with puberty by elaborating the interplay between two brain systems. The social-emotional system, which develops robustly in early adolescence, seeks out rewarding experiences, especially the sensation afforded by novel and risky behavior, and is also activated by the presence of peers. The cognitive-control system, which undergoes its great burst of development in later adolescence, evaluates and governs the impulses of teenagers.
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One Boy, 17 Official Incident Reports and a Better Kind of Discipline

October 5, 2009
In Brooklyn, public school’s been up and running for almost two months now, and I can’t stop thinking about Jmyha Rickman. She’s the 8-year-old Illinois schoolgirl who threw an epic tantrum last year and was hauled out of Lovejoy Elementary in handcuffs. On Facebook, comments ranged from “that kid needs a whupping” to “what kind of crazy racist monsters call the cops on a third-grader?” I didn’t comment. I was too busy freaking out. My boy could be next.
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When Children of Abuse Become Parents

September 26, 2009
It's hard enough for any parent to know what to do when a child acts out. For caregivers who themselves were disciplined with harsh physical punishment as a child, it's even harder. Studies show that one in three people who were abused as children will grow up to become an abuser.
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Plan B: What to do when all else has failed to change your kid’s behavior

September 17, 2009
Let’s say that there’s something you really, really want your child to do: complete toilet training before starting preschool in a few weeks, or eat more than the three P-foods (pasta, pizza, potato chips) he’s currently willing to eat, or take a bath without putting up a fight. Your expectation is reasonable, and you are being as positive, constructive, encouraging, patient, consistent, and gently firm as any parent could be. Well, OK, you lost it once or twice, which is only human, but for the most part you’re doing everything right: diligently practicing the behavior with your child, enthusiastically praising any steps in the right direction and awarding stickers on a chart so masterfully designed that it belongs in a psychology textbook.
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Bullies: They can be stopped, but it takes a village

August 17, 2009
Let’s say you find out that your child is being bullied by a schoolmate. Naturally, you want to do something right now to make it stop. Depending on your temperament and experience, one or more of four widely attempted common-sense solutions will occur to you: telling your child to stand up to the bully, telling your child to try to ignore and avoid the bully, taking matters into your own hands by calling the bully’s parents or confronting the bully yourself, or asking your child’s teacher to put a stop to it.
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